Do all relationships need work
Relationships are all about support and challenge. If you’re not constantly working on your relationship, loving and learning about each other, then you’re simply not growing. If you’re not growing, you’re not building a closer bond with each other.
It’s a myth that relationships are meant to be happiness ALL of the time. If you never had a difference of opinion you would never learn about each other. Compatibility in relationships is a necessary ingredient, but being too much like each other can leave nothing to explore.
100% happiness is for Cinderella!
Is your partner too independent?
Having a relationship that allows you to have some independence can be great as you can be an individual and do things in your life that you enjoy without always having to include your partner or gain their approval. You don’t have to be attached at the hip with someone; it makes you a more interesting personal when you also have your own life apart from your partner.
An independent relationship can be good, but on the other hand you don’t want to be in a relationship with someone is almost invisible in your life. Being in a relationship is all a about sharing your life together, so there needs to be a healthy balance of being together and apart for your partnership to work.
When it comes to children, are you on the same page?
Don’t kid yourself, this is a big issue! If your partner definitely does not want the patter of little feet around, and you do want to have children, then it is a recipe for disappointment. Having children is a beautiful thing to share with the love of your life, and you want to make sure you both have the same values when it comes to wanting and also raising a family. If you are not on the same page in this area of life you really need to reconsider your future life together.
Do yourself a favor and find out how your partner feels about this area of life and if you are not thinking and feeling the same, it will be best to find someone who shares the same life values as you do.